Read Deuteronomy 23-24
Moses offers wise words to his people on the subject of marriage and divorce. He knew if the nation was to survive they would have to handle the intimate union of husband and wife with success. The subject of divorce is painful even today. Still, we discover that Moses’ teaching on the subject is so powerful that even Jesus reads and quotes Moses 1,400 years later (Mark 10:2-12). Here are three conclusions that Jesus draws from Moses’ teaching on divorce.
- Marriage is a profound union where one man and one woman become “one flesh” (see Genesis 2:24-26).
- The uniting of man and woman into “one flesh” is the work of God. No human is able to do this work.
- No human has the authority to separate God’s work of uniting people in marriage. Jesus spoke of the hardness of men’s hearts in Moses’ day for this commandment in Deuteronomy 24:1-4.
Consider this: once the thought of “getting out” of a marriage forms in your mind, the permanence of marriage begins to erode. Though not easy, commitment is vital for marriage to survive and divorce should be rarely considered an option. For your marriage to succeed, you will need commitment to one another. Commitment is the asphalt on the paved road of permanence. Commitment means effort. If you desire a sturdy marriage, then you must add effort. Overcoming annoying habits and sinful choices, and pushing through the harsh consequences of emotional mistreatment is about effort.
Please know this: staying married is not mainly about staying in love. You need to work to make sure that the “lawn” of your marriage is so green that everyone else’s looks brown by comparison.
To make your marriage succeed, invest in three “T’s”
1) Time – some time with one another;
2) Talk – this also means listening;
3) Tenderness – use tender words and affection toward your spouse.